Comments on: First Date Red Flags

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 08:44:10 +0000

If he tells you this awesome date he has planned and gets you all excited and expectant for it, then once date time arrives, he is too tired, running too late, whatever, and just wants to order in and watch a movie.

Dude had no intention of spending any money on you, and is trying to get you to serve him. Don’t fall for it!

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By: krones

krones — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 21:40:58 +0000

Ethic is spot on. Your second rule is stereotypical, but it’s only natural you feel this way given a past relationship. As for my first date killers I feel the same way about similar things like Myspace. I do not want to hear about it, nor do I care. If it keeps getting brought up in the conversation and doesn’t go away, I will.

Dora the Explorer cruising music is brilliant. I’ll have to try that out sometime.

By: First Dates Are Like Interviews « Content Dynasty

First Dates Are Like Interviews « Content Dynasty — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 21:48:26 +0000

[...] Dates Are Like Interviews 27 01 2008 There’s been a little raucous over my First Date Red Flags post. Most of the uproar has come from red flag #2 – mentioning WoW or MMORPG on a first date. [...]

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 09:01:45 +0000

Jenn, I’ve got your back on the gaming issue. I often play video games online with buddies, but have the common sense not to talk about it on a first date. I think it would be a turn off for a woman as video games are typically associated with a couch potato lifestyle. And what woman would want that kind of relationship? Where is the excitement, intrigue or the promise of any future other than large LCD televisions, funny-looking headsets and online trash-talking? WoW!

I’d like to add a few to the list as well…

#1 Crying by either party on a first date is a deal breaker.

#2 Talking about your ex. Again, not a good idea for anyone.

#3 Telling your date you have $50,000 in credit card debt and thinking about filing bankruptcy.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 23:06:58 +0000

@ethic you make an excellent point. It really is more about an unhealthy obsession with some hobby rather than just the MMORPG games.

@Mark I’m not sure how anything I said makes me bigot, and don’t worry I don’t eat dessert on a first date. As to the ex…I’m not angry at him all. It’s never easy to end a relationship, but I did really love the guy in question. In all honesty, had he made a few compromises in the gaming department, I would have stuck it out with him. He’s a good guy though and if you see him in game you can tell him I said that.

By: Mark

Mark — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 19:09:56 +0000

You’re a bigot. That’s a big turn-off for me on a date, so you wouldn’t be making it to the dessert round, let alone to a second date.

Your psychological damage from a prior relationship has nothing to do with gaming or anyone else; you’re obviously still angry at your previous guy, and taking it out on everyone else.

By: Ethic

Ethic — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 18:53:19 +0000

Point number two should just apply to being obsessed with *any* hobby. It’s not about the exact hobby, but the level of involvement. I could say the same thing about soap operas (well anything on TV really), crossword puzzles, celebrity worship, NASCAR, etc. Your point would have been better made talking about hobby obsession rather than singling out one specific hobby. As is the case in any hobby, some people take it too far.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 18:33:18 +0000

openedge1 you make some decent points but I think I’m being slightly misunderstood. I take no issue with the game or the gamer, just the obsession. I dated and loved a man who was obsessed and I found that other women in my shoes struggled with the same issues. Maybe I wasn’t enganging enough, but either way I’d rather avoid competing with a game in the future. For me it was a lesson learned. To each his own right?

By: Openedge1

Openedge1 — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 17:58:53 +0000

This is an interesting post…but, i happen to be one who will disagree with #2..
I am sure some other have on other blogs…but, I needed to come and point out the fallacies here…and my wife would be happy to corroborate.

1. he’s obsessed
So, for one or two hours a day, I am interested in a fantasy based world where I can either enjoy some free time, talk with others, get rid of work frustrations, or just kill some time. Yet, I am an avid foodie (love to go to relatively expensive restaurants or try various foods, and I am a food connoisseur), I am not a drinker and be at the bar every night, I do not do drugs, and hold a well placed position in a reputable Christian based firm. Go figure…you have pigeonholed someone based on maybe one or two situations of your own.
2. he’s skipped a shower for an important battle/match
Hmmm. Why would this matter if I am doing a battle at my computer desk and not out on a date with someone? I am confused over why skipping a shower is an issue? I am a clean, well kept person, who showers two to three times a day, depending on need. Again a pigeonhole of an MMO player. My belief is that if they are going on a date, they are going to shower…as not only do MMO players not shower…other “types” as well do not shower…
3. he’ll choose the game over sex at some point in the relationship
And would you not choose no sex at varying times…say after working out at the gym and YOU have not showered yet? And how often is a good amount of times for sex for it to be pleasurable? And here is the kicker…I have had BETTER sex due to the fact my wife is willing to “draw” me away from the game with sex…oh the agony…(as I quickly tell everyone in the game goodbye)

I would put the feelings you have toward “Gamers” as a lack of your ability to draw the man in, and keep him interested as the issue here. The “geek” that will be playing games will be one of several things as a matter of fact…

*Successful in their job and well off, and comfortable in their own skin

*Surprisingly NOT who you thought they would be (examples being :Samuel L Jackson, Curt Schilling (who has plans to start his OWN MMORPG company), Milla Jovovich, Carmen Electra, Dave Chappelle)

*Willing to work on making their woman pleased, and satisfied with their life…

So many things your missing out on…if you were not as closed minded.
Successful dating never works when you are as willing to write off a certain person based on their interests…
You could find the perfect partner in life.