Comments on: Let’s Talk About Numbers http://contentdynasty.jennifervangrove.com/2008/02/lets-talk-about-numbers/ Fri, 07 Oct 2011 04:02:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: The Number Game « Content Dynasty http://contentdynasty.jennifervangrove.com/2008/02/lets-talk-about-numbers/comment-page-1/#comment-140 The Number Game « Content Dynasty Wed, 27 Feb 2008 18:58:19 +0000 http://contentqueen.wordpress.com/?p=103#comment-140 [...] Number Game 27 02 2008 So this post isn’t related to my other numbers post, that one is about sex and this one is about the actual 10 digits that are exchanged when you meet [...] [...] Number Game 27 02 2008 So this post isn’t related to my other numbers post, that one is about sex and this one is about the actual 10 digits that are exchanged when you meet [...]

]]> By: clearlii http://contentdynasty.jennifervangrove.com/2008/02/lets-talk-about-numbers/comment-page-1/#comment-136 clearlii Thu, 07 Feb 2008 13:43:13 +0000 http://contentqueen.wordpress.com/?p=103#comment-136 My most recent ex was number type #4, and two ex's before that, type #2&4 hybrid. Musician and dramatist, respectively. They both made me go through and name the people I had slept with, and the nature of my relationship with them - and I told them everything, because I thought honesty was the best policy. What ended up happening was exactly what you end with in the typification of #4 - they couldn't let go. It wasn't the number of guys I had slept with - it was that they were measuring themselves up to the others. Really, I think by not talking about it, you're saving your man a lot of needless torture. If I knew that my boyfriend had slept with some beautiful, fabulous model types before me, I would subconsciously never forget it. Why waste perfectly good mind/emotional space on desctructive information? Especially that subconscious space - that stuff is sneaky. My most recent ex was number type #4, and two ex’s before that, type #2&4 hybrid. Musician and dramatist, respectively. They both made me go through and name the people I had slept with, and the nature of my relationship with them – and I told them everything, because I thought honesty was the best policy. What ended up happening was exactly what you end with in the typification of #4 – they couldn’t let go. It wasn’t the number of guys I had slept with – it was that they were measuring themselves up to the others.

Really, I think by not talking about it, you’re saving your man a lot of needless torture. If I knew that my boyfriend had slept with some beautiful, fabulous model types before me, I would subconsciously never forget it. Why waste perfectly good mind/emotional space on desctructive information? Especially that subconscious space – that stuff is sneaky.

]]> By: Joe http://contentdynasty.jennifervangrove.com/2008/02/lets-talk-about-numbers/comment-page-1/#comment-138 Joe Wed, 06 Feb 2008 21:33:23 +0000 http://contentqueen.wordpress.com/?p=103#comment-138 Better a man than a guy . . . Better a man than a guy . . .

]]> By: Jenn http://contentdynasty.jennifervangrove.com/2008/02/lets-talk-about-numbers/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Jenn Wed, 06 Feb 2008 21:10:47 +0000 http://contentqueen.wordpress.com/?p=103#comment-137 Hi Joe. Great comment and I agree 100%. Thanks for being a man about this! Hi Joe. Great comment and I agree 100%. Thanks for being a man about this!

]]> By: Joe http://contentdynasty.jennifervangrove.com/2008/02/lets-talk-about-numbers/comment-page-1/#comment-139 Joe Wed, 06 Feb 2008 20:54:27 +0000 http://contentqueen.wordpress.com/?p=103#comment-139 Although I made a joke on Angie's blog, let me just say that for all four of the types you list, the bottom line is insecurity. And I think this is more of a male that a female issue. I think a man asking that question is, or potentially is, intimidated by the sexuality of the woman he's asking. "What if she's had a lot of experience and I don't measure up?" A man who is truly confident in his own sexuality, doesn't have to take his partner's inventory, doesn't have to brag about his own "notches" and isn't really worried about how he stacks up. Chances are, he knows what he's doing. Although I made a joke on Angie’s blog, let me just say that for all four of the types you list, the bottom line is insecurity. And I think this is more of a male that a female issue. I think a man asking that question is, or potentially is, intimidated by the sexuality of the woman he’s asking. “What if she’s had a lot of experience and I don’t measure up?” A man who is truly confident in his own sexuality, doesn’t have to take his partner’s inventory, doesn’t have to brag about his own “notches” and isn’t really worried about how he stacks up. Chances are, he knows what he’s doing.

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