As a former subscriber to Cosmopolitan, I’ve read many an article about sex, dating, relationships, love, men, etc. I’ve decided to pick up the periodical once again in the hopes for blogging inspiration. I hope to turn this into an ongoing series where I dissect different articles, controversial or not, and delve a little bit deeper. We all know, guys and gals alike, those 101 greatest sex secrets really consist of 4 or 5 good tips and 96 fluff tips we learned in high school.

Let’s take a look at…

50 Things Guys Wish You Knew

Obviously this is copyrighted content, so I can’t recreate or reproduce the text, but here are my top 5 (including the number in the article) and the reasons I think they’re worth paying attention to:

1. Men want to be seduced by their woman (#4). Men love the idea of being an alpha male, but what really gets them hot and bothered in the bedroom is a woman who is really hot for them. It may seem contrary to the sexual roles we’ve come to expect from men and women, but men want to wanted just as much as women do. The really great men know when to take charge, though.
2. Assume that your guy is playing the field until you have the official talk (#9). This isn’t always true, most men I’ve dated are more than happy focusing their attention on one woman almost instantaneously. One caveat is that this one woman must be incredible. You’ll know he thinks you’re amazing, because he won’t let any other man snatch you up. The men that are fickle just aren’t that into you, and speaking from experience, it’s better to walk away early.
3. You can’t always judge a man’s sexual prowess by his dancing abilities (#13). Most women know this, so this one is for the guys. We’re not comparing your dance moves to your bedroom moves, because we’ve learned that coordination isn’t a simple equation. We might be a little turned off, at first, by incredibly bad dance moves though.
4. If you want something in bed, ask for it (#15). Yep. He’ll do it unless it’s crazy.
5. A man wants you more if you make yourself less available to him (#49). It sucks that there is truth to this statement, but if you make yourself too available to your man, there is the potential that he’ll get bored pretty quickly. Just make sure to take your space, because the opposite effect holds true. Guys are inspired and hot for women who have complex and busy lives.

Did you read the article and find more interesting things you’d care to share? Or do you have something to say about my top 5? Do share!

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