As a first contact with your blog, the sincerity and openness of your post really caught on me.

Keep up with the good posts and this constant work of finding the true balance between “good” and “evil”.

Warm regards,
Leo

I almost married a man who was saving himself for marriage. I was so inspired by my faith at the time that I felt that I could forgo those temptations. It was 3 months before our wedding day when the real reasons behind our sexless relationship became obvious enough for me to call everything off. I care for the guy so I won’t share those reasons here, but part of the problem was that he had been conditioned since childhood to think of sex as dirty. Anyhow long story short, I went down a different path and it just wasn’t me. I have to be true to myself, because I refuse to find myself settling for an unsatisfying marriage (trust me I meet far too many men who are unhappily married).

Sex was designed by God to be enjoyable and wonderful, but to be limited to the confines of marriage to keep the family unit pure.

And if God designed it then He has rules about it’s use, and if we decide to go out on our own then there will likely be some bad consequences (please read Galatians 6:7 KJV). So if we do decide to disregard God in this area then what boundaries are we going to use?

I don’t want to have to mention any specifics, Jenn (I wouldn’t want the wrong type of crowd landing here from Google!), but you will no doubt agree that if there are no absolute boundaries in this area we can get into some pretty disgusting stuff!

I care for you, and God does more so, and I know I’m not holier than thou or perfect in any way (I’m right up there with Paul in the “chiefest of sinners” zone), but girl please please please refrain from fornication (1 Thessalonians 4:3 KJV). I know, it’s difficult, but it’s God’s will for our life.

@LenaB :: an omniscient, omnipresent, omnipotent God wouldn’t really be *all that* if He couldn’t preserve His Word throughout time, huh? Thankfully my God does (Psalm 12:6-7 KJV)… otherwise, if He can’t, He’s a liar – and then we’d have some real problems!!

Peoples’ opinions do matter. Why? One example – blogging about sex could affect any professional decisions I make in the future. Let’s get real. If I want to socialize and interact with family and friends, their perception of me is going to influence the entire relationship. I seriously doubt that anyone can truly separate how they feel about something from how society/friends etc view that same something.

You kind of hit a nerve, because I have found peace with who I am and yet you seem to find fault that there was ever even an issue.

@Jenn: I’m glad that you’ve found the balance between faith and sexuality. There is a lot of guilt and societal pressure associated with secularity vs. living a “pure” life. You show strength and fortitude to have broken out of that mindset without losing your religion or your sense of self.

“I firmly assert, without fear of ridicule, that I believe in God and Jesus, thus I consider myself a Christian through faith.”

I hope Christ Jesus doesn’t preface your introduction before the Heavenly Father like that… “I firmly assert, without fear of ridicule, that, yes, Almighty, I know this woman Jenn and love her.”

Geez. Be firm in that faith you say you have. “Without fear of ridicule?” Who cares Tom, Dick or Harry thinks, Jenn? There is absolutely no one ‘perfect’ in society’s eyes, so stop looking over your shoulder. Yes, they are watching, but, um, how much do they matter to your personal happiness?

If you’ve read it, it ain’t man’s commentary on your lifestyle that matters, it’s GOD’s. And no one can tell you how GOD will deal with an individual…

But, um, I suppose His Holy Words in the Holy Bible are meant to be applied to a Christian’s life, no? What else is it for? Pretty poetry and scary parables?

Why are you looking beyond GOD for approval and/or disapproval? Who cares what your friends think about your relationship with GOD? You think they can testify on your behalf or something before the LORD? It’s between you and HIM.

Just be real about it, huh? Stop playing around. You like to have sex and you don’t care if you’re doing it while you’re married or not. You also say you love the LORD and call yourself a Christian. OK. So what does the Holy Bible say about sexual immorality and state about a person’s body? And you don’t have to look too hard, Paul wrote a whole lot about it.

And I’m not condemning or judging you either, friend. None of us are perfect. I’m just saying stop beating around the bush. You really think that guilt you were battling came from what other people may think about your lifestyle…?

Whatever.