I’ve been avoiding posting too much content related to sex, which is why there is almost always a hint of sexuality in my posts and nothing more, but I’ve decided to write more about what I know best. So here goes nothing. Feel free to add some dos and don’ts to the list.

Sex Dos and Don’ts by Topic

Dirty Talk

Do – verbalize how certain types of touches make you feel. Slowly describe each sensation with words that are descriptive and vivid.

Don’t – take dirty talk to taboo areas unless you’ve already tested those waters. It’s a huge turn off to find out that a guy wants me to do something I’m incredibly uncomfortable with. It could even be a deal breaker.

Do – describe the parts of your partner’s body that drive you wild.

Don’t – ever mention anything unflattering about your partner, even if the intention is good.

Oral

Do – reciprocate. One-sided oral encounters feel unbalanced and you come across greedy.

Don’t – expect oral or try to force it. If he/she isn’t willing just drop the subject all together.

Do – pay attention to your partners body movements and noises. Men, you’re doing a good job if her legs start shaking, she grips the things around her with force, her moans increase in volume, or her pelvis moves with your motions, etc. You could use some more direction if she moves around or fidgets, she is relatively quiet, or she keeps interrupting you.

Don’t – get disappointed or discouraged if your efforts don’t result in an orgasm. Most people want to cum and are more than happy to provide tips to help them get there.

Do (men to women) – use a combination of tongue and fingers simultaneously. This technique works wonders.

Don’t – use too much force. It can get painful.

Foreplay

Do – it. Don’t skip foreplay; women need it.

Don’t – forget that foreplay should be reciprocal. It’s not about you, it’s about the experience you both have.

Do – kiss, makeout, touch, and explore each other’s bodies.

Don’t – worry about common mishaps like the inability to remove a bra, or your pants taking too long to take off. These things are normal.

Do – take special care to find out which spots are more sensitive than others. For example, the back of my neck is extremely sensitive, and guys that pay attention to this area get major bonus points.

Don’t – hesitate to communicate what really turns you on (see dirty talk).

Positions

Do – try more than one position (but don’t get too carried away).

Don’t – get in too much of a position routine. Know what positions work best to achieve climax, but experiment with your approach to get there.

Do – mix up your speeds. Experiment with different paces and watch your partner’s physical responses to determine what they like best. Just remember that fast doesn’t equal better.

Don’t – assume that changing positions every 10 seconds makes you a good lover. You may know the kama sutra inside and out, but changing positions constantly can ruin a good flow. A good rule of thumb is to stick with three positions per session.

Post-Coital

Do – clean up whatever mess was made, but…

Don’t – run away too fast. Bonding after sex is key to developing intimacy.

Do – take a shower together.

Do – cuddle.

Don’t – roll over and take a nap immediately.

Don’t – get carried away with emotional/mushy talk. You just connected on a sexual level, and connecting on an emotional level is great, but don’t go overboard (if you’re a chic) because guys usually can’t process that much right after they cum.

More to Come

Ha that’s a double entendre! I look forward to your comments on some sex dos and don’ts that you’ve experienced first hand. Feel free to stay anonymous if you’d like.

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