Comments on: Coping with Betrayal

By: Veronica

Veronica — Fri, 07 Oct 2011 04:02:39 +0000

Thank you very much for this article…now it make me understand why betraying happened. The first thing to remember, is that if an individual starts lying, playing games and hidding the true or not telling you where or what he/she is doing, you know betrayal will happen. My boyfriend took some money from my account, always telling me he will give me some money, put me in debt then ran away with my 17 years old daughter who he has sexual relationship with and opened a bank account under her name. Now I am left alone with all the debts, has to put a restraining order for the man who still harrass me and my only family was my daughter who beleived I was the bad person as my boyfriend told her I was the one taking the money. Harsh

By: Christine

Christine — Wed, 09 Jun 2010 13:21:43 +0000

Hi
You sound like me, I have always been too trusting as i too believe in the good of all people and try to reflect that in my relationships with them, however its the people closest to me that have often betrayed me and done the most damage. To be honest it appears to be a re-occurring pattern during my life that I cannot work out so now I spend a lot of time alone, I have fought to remain non bitter as i personally do not want to be involved in those sort of qualities or vengeance. I can forgive but never forget, its happened so many times now that I cannot trust getting too close to anyone and feel I have to live at a polight superficial level with others. I don't know what the answer is all I do know is that I now have to protect myself as much as I can because it does tear my heart out when it happens.
I hope you manage to find a way through.

By: Kaycee

Kaycee — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 01:32:16 +0000

Betrayals often come from persons you trust.At least there must have been some sort of neo platonic relationship.That's why it's often difficult to cope with when it unfolds.I'll only advise that one be wary of friends who cry for(almost beg for) trust in relationships.Trust should be earned as just as it it should by-product of tests…kaycee

By: Kaycee

Kaycee — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 19:32:16 +0000

By: Adult Toys

Adult Toys — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 01:27:58 +0000

interesting article

By: Nico

Nico — Fri, 30 May 2008 22:15:20 +0000

Hi Jenn,

Having just experienced a major betrayal in my job (a colleague and friend bore false witness), your writing did mean something to me. It happened 12 hours ago, and I am still absolutely shocked by it.

Why does someone choose to betray: …an individual stands to gain from the betrayal…

Nico

By: Jenn

Jenn — Sun, 11 May 2008 06:24:42 +0000

@Anonymous Coward it sounds like I can count you as a dedicated reader of my blog…glad I could keep you entertained.

By: Anonymous Coward

Anonymous Coward — Sun, 11 May 2008 05:47:12 +0000

Wow, when did your blog (life?) become so negatively focused?

First a sex buddy that you kicked to the curb, then a rather eye opening look at your need to keyhole people, followed by a declaration of baggage for all men to be wary of, and now a cry for comfort from being betrayed?

Doesn’t anything good ever happen to you?

By: Morganix

Morganix — Sun, 11 May 2008 01:40:36 +0000

Life comes at you quick! Gotta roll with it and learn along the way. Its not a female thing, its not a male thing, its a human thing… Been burned before too, it sux. But you have to keep it movin and stay focused. Do you!! The tough experiences make you stronger in the end if you learn from them and rise above the urge to exact revenge.

By: Peety

Peety — Sat, 10 May 2008 17:48:15 +0000

The best medicine is to “try” to forgive and forget.

Have a wonderful week-end!