While dancing up a storm, Angie and I were approached by two different types of guys:

Mr. Confident

An attractively confident man made no qualms about trying to talk to Angie. She happens to be taken, and we happened to be having a girls night, so she politely let him know that his dancing advances weren’t going to work. He wasn’t offended; he didn’t spew insults as he sulked away; he took it like a man and let us be. If anyone stood a chance of getting to dance with us it was this guy.

The Wing Man

A little later in the evening, a guy three sheets to the wind, with whiskey breath, stumbled up to me on the dance floor, and the conversation went as follows:

Wing Man: My friend thinks you’re cute and wants to dance with you.

Me: Who?

Wing Man: Pointing in a very unspecific direction. Him.

Me: We’re (referring to Angie and I) just having a good time tonight. I think you guys should do the same.

So why did I blow off the Wing Man and the potential suitor? It wasn’t about looks, in fact I didn’t even get a good luck at the guy who wanted to dance with me. It certainly wasn’t about the drunk man stammering in front of me. Wait. Actually, in truth, my rejection had 100% to do with the Wing Man factor.

How Not to Employ the Wing Man

I understand the Wing Man concept; it makes sense to me, and I’ve seen it work in the field. In the right setting, a Wing Man can make all the difference.

Facts to remember in the field:

1. Women aren’t attracted to cowards.
2. Women aren’t intrigued by men who are afraid of a challenge.

Simple truth: Don’t send your Wing Man in solo to do your dirty work in any scenario that could make you seem like less of a man.

siren + karaoke

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I’ve moved my locale but I’m still the same karaoke looking/loving chica. Thank you Edward for taking these fabulous photos.